Tuesday, December 1, 2009

Shyla's Stocking

Today is December 1.  Tomorrow will be 3 months since we said good-bye to our little girl. 

Christmas is my favorite time of year and I have been searching for a way to keep it that way, even in the midst of our pain.  I found this wonderful idea from another mom whose little boy is in Heaven and was really inspired to do the same thing she did the first Christmas without her baby.  The following is a letter I have sent to facebook friends, and will send to family in Chirstmas cards and email to other friends.  Please read, and if you feel so inspired, participate.  I know a lot of you are remembering your angels this Christmas, so feel free to do the same in memory of your precious child.

Dear Friends,


First, let me thank you all for your love, support and prayers over the past year. Thank you for sharing in the excitement of our pregnancy and in the sorrow of our loss. We know each one of you felt our pain during the loss of Shyla. We celebrate her life and, like a stone tossed into a pond, are now seeing some of the far reaching ripples of the donations made in her name to the Pregnancy HELP Center.

As the holidays are approaching, we are excited to spend time with family and friends and watching the excitement in Ethan’s eyes just overwhelms our hearts sometimes. But, we still feel the need to remember our daughter this Christmas. We have a little pink stocking, but really don't want to see it hang empty, so we have decided to enlist all of you to help us.
All that we ask is that sometime between now and Christmas, do something nice for someone, no matter how small or large. It doesn't have to involve money--just commit a random act of kindness. When you do it, think of Shyla and dedicate that act her. You can even leave a note saying, “This random act of kindness was done in memory of Shyla Joy", but you don’t have to. Please write down your act of kindness and send it to me through e-mail (at scattercreativejoy@gmail.com) and put “Shyla’s Stocking” in the subject line or slip a note into your Christmas cards to us. I won't read it. I will print it out the emails and put it in her stocking. Then, on Christmas morning, we will open up all the notes and read them. Feel free to share this request with your other friends and family and forward to your facebook contacts, but even if only a few of you do this, we will have a really beautiful thing to share on Christmas in our sweet baby's memory and someone else (the recipient of your kindness) will benefit by a true example of the spirit of Christmas. I will pray that all of us will be struck by inspiration, that something will come to each of us, some kindness that we can share of ourselves, in Shyla’s name and in her memory, to benefit someone else.

Thank you so much for your participation and your continued love and support,

Ben, Mattie and Ethan


For idea’s and inspiration for random acts of kindness, visit http://www.missfoundation.org/kindness/ideas.html



To read about how other moms remember their children spending Christmas with Jesus this year, visit Kelly at The Beauty of Sufficient Grace. 

12 comments:

JamieW said...

What you are doing is such a beautiful tribute and way to remember. I hope you don't mind if I steal parts of your idea. Thinking of you.

Jessica said...

That truly is a beautiful idea and a beautiful way to remember Shyla. :)

Marie W said...

I absolutely love this idea!

Dana said...

What a wonderful way to honor your daughter!

Heather said...

I think this is a wonderful way to memorialize your sweet baby.

Kathryn @ Expectant Hearts said...

How beautiful. I hope you will share some of those with us after Christmas!

Holly said...

This is a wonderful idea and I love it! How good it will feel to read all the acts of kindness done in her name.

Kelly @ The Beauty of Sufficient Grace said...

What an amazing idea! Thank you so much for sharing this, and for linking it to Walking With You. I hope many moms read it and maybe even "steal" your idea. What a way to honor the precious life of your Shyla, and to bless others and see the blessings multiply as people spread kindness in her name.

This post really blessed me and will bless all who read it...just add that to the list of ways that Shyla's life has touched the life of someone else.

Praying God's comfort and peace as He carries you through this Christmas season and gives daily sufficient grace for the coming year...

croleyc69 said...

What a wonderful idea and I just love it.
Praying for you and wishing you and your family a Merry Christmas.
Caroline

Debbie said...

Wow; what a wonderful idea and tribute to your Shyla. I will think of her and take you up on your suggestion. May you be comforted by the Lord especially during this Christmas time.

Blessings,
Debbie

Jess said...

Wow, what a cool idea! I love that concept. We've been doing some special things for others in our daughter's honor, but I hadn't thought of asking others to do the same, and the stocking idea is so cute too. I was trying to think of what we want to put in her stocking, maybe we will do something similar. I hope you have a special time on Christmas reading through all the things others are doing in Shyla's honor!

Rebekah said...

That sounds so wonderful! I hope reading all the notes on Christmas morning will bring you peace & joy despited the grief I'm sure you'll feel. Thank you for sharing this with all of us!!!